WHY DOES A CHILD CHEAT?

There are several reasons:

The most common thing is that the child is afraid of getting "knocked out". This often happens when parents are too demanding, too strict, unwilling to accept the child as he or she is. Having experience with frightening, humiliating punishments, the child's instinct for self-preservation kicks in.
Here we need to work on trusting relationships. Establish communication with the child, learn to show empathy towards him.
The desire to embellish reality. The child comes up with rich parents, cool gifts, unusual stories with their participation. Of course, a lot depends on age. Up to 4-5 years old, children rather fantasize, play with imagination. But later we can already talk about some dissatisfaction with themselves. Why does a child want to seem better than he is? This may be low self-esteem or a desire to achieve praise, love from an adult. In this case, parents should also analyze whether they make too many demands on the child? How often do they praise the child for his real successes? Does the child know his merits?
When a child is faced with a large number of “no’s”, he often chooses the easiest and simplest way to get what he wants – to deceive. For him, this is either the only effective way, or he doesn’t know any others yet. In any case, adults need to reconsider their prohibitions and decide whether the child really can’t do all this or whether the adult is just making his life easier?
Parents want their child to be well-mannered and polite. Showing emotions such as hatred, anger, resentment, disappointment, sadness, etc. is considered unacceptable. As a result, the child learns to hide his emotions, and accordingly, to hide the truth from adults, and sometimes even from himself.
A child can lie, repeating after adults. It often happens that parents' words do not correspond to their actions (they cite themselves as an example to the child, as a standard of behavior, but in reality everything turns out to be completely different), or promises are not kept, both good and bad. For example, they promise to punish the child severely if he does or does not do something, and do not punish, or they promise to help with homework, but in the end they do not help.
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